Friends

Recently a very good friend of mine had to go to the hospital. I know that she'll get better, but it will be a long road to recovery. However, her illness got me to thinking about friendship in general.

Humans are by nature social beings. We need the company of others. Very few of us could survive for long without having other people around. We need some kind of contact with others, however fleeting.

Look up the word friends in the dictionary and you find:

• A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.
• A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.
• A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.
• One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement.

The concept of a friend can encompass many different people in your life: family members, husband, wife, children, and just about anybody else. I think that the person you are married to or live with should be more than someone that "you love", they should be a friend too. My feeling is that if they can't be a friend, why are you in love with them?

Friends can be like a family members too. When you don't have any family, recruit some friends to be your family – they are the best type because you get to pick them!

Lastly, the holidays are upon us again. Here's a suggestion: don't give in to commercialism, instead let your friends know how much you appreciate their support. You don't have to spend a bunch of money, just give them a call or send them a card. Sometimes the simplest things can have the biggest impact.

A helping hand

What is one of the greatest gifts that one person can give another? Well, there was a song by the Beatles that had a line that went something like this: “I get by with a little help from my friends.” There are two phrases that come to mind also: “circle of friends” and “circle of life.” [which is also the title to a song by Elton John and Tim Rice]

Humans are, for the most part, very social. We live in groups, communities, cities, nations. We depend upon the work of others to survive. Imagine what your life would be like if you had to grow and process all of your food, generate all of your own energy, pump your own water, build your own shelter, manipulate fibers to create your own clothing, and do everything else you needed to survive on a daily basis. Do you think you could do it? I suspect that very, very few of us could.

It is a great shame that we – the human race that is – are unable to cooperate together to work towards the good of humanity. I wonder sometimes what we might have been able to achieve if we had not wasted so much time, energy, money, and lives on hate, violence and war. It makes me so very sad. My hopes and dreams of youth have been demolished by stupidity, corporate greed, and governmental waste.

Alas, all I can do is take care of my own little circle. That is what truly gives me satisfaction in my life. Until very recently friends were the only family that I had. I have been very fortunate to have some incredible people in my life (including the members of my new found family!). For this I am eternally grateful. I truly do not know where I would be without them.

Tradition

Here in the U.S. many of us have just celebrated the annual tradition of Thanksgiving. There are many opinions of how it all started and I’m not going to weigh in on that. However, here are a couple of sites where you can read different opinions: The Thanksgiving Story (they even have a fun quiz you can take), and How Thanksgiving Works (includes information on Thanksgiving customs in other countries).

For my own part I always cook a big meal for my family and friends. I love having a house full of happy, hungry people. Yes, it’s a lot of work to prepare, but it’s about the only holiday tradition that I have left where I can get everyone to participate. Then there all those lovely leftovers – Yum, Yum!! If you love turkey sandwiches you’ll be happy to know that most people say that is their favorite way to use up leftover turkey. If you are looking for some new recipes for your leftover turkey, look here for some ideas.

Traditions are an important part of any society (and family). They bind us together, and give us a common basis to relate to each other on. Without traditions we feel lost, without guidance, like a sailboat without a keel. As families fragment (there are so many divorces and single-parent households), it is doubly important to hold on to traditions. Children need structure as they grow up so they can become productive members of society.

Embrace a healthy, happy tradition. Make it part of your life. Share it with others. The world needs all the happiness and love that it can get.